Reflecting on Questions….

Toy Train by Jeanne Mischo

The time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is never easy for me. Each year there are less and less people who have known me my whole life, and it seems most of them passed on during this Advent season. I feel like the family is shrinking until I take a good look around. My nieces have their own children now, some old enough to be in high school. Others remind me it is my turn to be the older generation, to be the one who has known them and prayed for them since before they were born. Yet despite the wrinkles and grey hair that welcome me in the mirror each morning, I don’t feel that much different inside. I wonder if I am up to the task of being an elder. I wonder why I don’t know or understand more than I do. Then I think back to a conversation with my father years ago, a conversation I dreaded and put off for way too long. I called home hoping to get my mother, only to find him working from home. I was calling to say I was getting divorced. I was ashamed, disappointed in myself, and terrified of disappointing my father. Of course once he answered the phone it all came tumbling out, all of the raw emotions I had bottled up in my heart. When I stopped crying and had calmed down a bit, my thirty year old self said I thought I would have figured out more answers by now. My father’s reply remains with me thirty years later. He said ‘I don’t have more answers. I simply have learned to ask better questions’. If better questions define wisdom, then I may make the grade after all. If I am required to listen more and talk less, then I still have a challenge ahead of me. Perhaps the greatest comfort is knowing we are all a work in progress, waiting and watching for a bit of divine inspiration to take human form. Christ told us the Kingdom of God is realized through each and every one of us. What if that Kingdom of God is a lens, a way of seeing and hearing that is first and foremost about relationship, about listening deeply to one another with our whole hearts and minds and souls? What if the questions are more important than our own answers? What if the questions are about each of us finding our own path, not in the sense of anything goes, but rather by walking in the path God has prepared uniquely for us? Make time today to be vulnerable to a different answer than you expect. Continue a difficult conversation, trusting in the relationship more than the uncomfortable message that might be easy to avoid. Allow the divine spark to bring forth a physical reality in a different than what you envisioned. Watch and wait, asking the questions buried in your own heart as you listen to the eternal and never ending heartbeat of the Almighty and ever living God. Art entitled ‘Toy Train’ by Jeanne Mischo ©2013-2016, used with her permission, text by Connie Chintall ©2016

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5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Gayle Graham
    Dec 15, 2016 @ 12:31:04

    What a beautiful message. And what an inspirational father. Thank you for reminding me of value of ‘more questions than answers.’

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  2. Marian Methner, B.S., D.Min.
    Dec 16, 2016 @ 13:04:13

    This is beautiful. Thank You. I lived thousands of miles from my parents. I felt the same way telling them that I was divorcing – and my mother answered “I felt like something was wrong.” She was always “listening with her heart.”

    I would like to use some of your words about listening for a monthly gathering at StillpointatBeckside I help facilitate using the work of Teilhard de Chardan. In January the focus is energy.

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  3. seekthesacred
    Dec 16, 2016 @ 18:56:10

    Please pass on any information in this post that you feel would be worthy of sharing with your group. It sounds like you are passing on that tradition of ‘listening with the heart’. We are both blessed beyond words to have had parents who heard our hearts instead of just our words. May the Holy Spirit dazzle you with His light this holiday season.

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